Preheat oven to 375º F. Butter a 13"x9" baking dish.
In a large bowl, whisk together cornmeal, flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt.
In a medium bowl, whisk together the eggs, buttermilk, milk, sour cream, and honey and then add to the dry ingredients to the wet and mix just to combine.
Fold the corn, bacon, chopped jalapeños and 3/4 of the shredded cheese into the batter.
Pour the batter into the prepared pan and top with the remaining shredded cheese and sliced jalapeño (if using).
Bake for 35 - 40 minutes until the top is golden and a toothpick inserted in center comes out clean. Cool for 10 - 15 minutes before slicing.